A majority of women often suffer, without knowing it, in not having the sexual life that they wish: to be comfortable with the sensations, to be able to adjust them to those of their partner, thus benefiting from the restoring virtues of the sharing of love. At the crossroads of gynaecology, Chinese medicine, psychoanalysis and the trans-generational approach, Dr. Flaumenbaum, a gynaecologist and acupuncturist, draws on more than thirty years of experience to explain how women today build their sexuality, the place the mother holds there, why pleasure or even desire is so seldom present, and how to remedy it. A book that should reinvigorate men and energise women.
By:
Daniele Flaumenbaum
Imprint: Aeon Books Ltd
Country of Publication: United Kingdom
Dimensions:
Height: 198mm,
Width: 129mm,
Spine: 13mm
Weight: 200g
ISBN: 9781912807642
ISBN 10: 1912807645
Pages: 160
Publication Date: 10 December 2020
Audience:
General/trade
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ELT Advanced
Format: Paperback
Publisher's Status: Active
INTRODUCTION CHAPTER ONE We love men like we love our mothers The first object of love Loving like a child The woman and the mother in us Why do we regress when we love? Maternal love is not sexual CHAPTER TWO The dynamic of sexual anatomy The circulation of sexual energy The role of the uterus in sexual pleasure The clitoris, the hymen and the vagina The uterus, the fallopian tubes and the ovaries Hormonal control The lesser pelvis, the hips and the perineum Breasts and breastfeeding Changes and transformations in a woman's body Setting sexual energy in motion CHAPTER THREE The barrier of fire: recurrent disorders Acute ailments, recurrent ailments Looking for the origin Fire in the genitals: blocked sexuality Chinese medicine Disrupting the repetition Making love Teaching our genitals about pleasure The life force that inhabits us CHAPTER FOUR How little girls construct their sexuality and how daughters come undone when their mothers die Expecting a little girl At birth, the child becomes the magnetic catalyst The power of names and surnames Breast-feeding Building the baby girl's sexuality The dyad stage Wanting to know the true story Finding self-recognition The father's role and the difference between sexes Telling a little girl that later her genitals will welcome a man's Parental intimacy “But where was I before?” The bottomless pit: falling into depression Quest for meaning and renewal CHAPTER FIVE The gynaecological family tree Painful menstruation “Phantom” disorders Premenstrual syndrome Gynaecological ailments and their origins Symptoms generated by family line disorders Sterility and infertility Unwanted pregnancies The importance of knowing one's genealogy The effects of building a genosociogram Care CHAPTER SIX Desire Inherited social and cultural burdens First change: women think (1945) Second change: birth control (1965) Third change: sexual liberation? “Third change: sexual liberation? Parental fulfilment Continued ignorance about sexuality Desire: the energy that makes the encounter possible When desire is inhibited The body is not invaginated How to break the cycle of transgenerational repetition The starting point of a man's sexual desire is the genitals, while a woman's is in her heart, between her two breasts Woman and their desire: floating heads So, what is desire? CHAPTER SEVEN What is making love? Courtship displays Creating a shared space: foreplay and the encounter between the genitals Fondling the breasts Fixation on the clitoris Desired, but also desiring Benefitting from what we do not have The co-penetration of the genitals Creating the phallus Feeling the uterus and maintaining the fire Being fully present to oneself and to the other at the same time Finding words again Pathways of sexual energy Completeness and surpassing oneself Projecting oneself into the other's body Jouissance: sexual joy What is an orgasm? Coming down after making love ACKNOWLEDGEMENT INDEX
Daniele Flaumenbaum is a gynaecologist and acupuncurist, and a member of the Faculty of Medicine in Paris for over 40 years. In the 1980s Daniele studied Chinese medicine and Taoist sexual alchemy, as well as exploring transgenerational psychoanalysis which highlights ancestral heritage. She is a pioneer in her field in bringing these disciplines together and this has transformed her life as a woman and those of her patients. She has been the president of the 'Jardin d'Idees Association' since 2010.
